But you will also be wise enough to know that what you know is very rarely important. And you will be listening carefully enough to know that this a time to be very, very quiet and very, very open and soft and ready and aware and empty of any agenda or judgment or knowledge or solutions or ideas at all. Because this sister has requested none of that. And so this is simply a time to be a witness. To stand witness to another sister’s pain. To say yes, I see you – yes, I hear you and – yes, I even feel you. Yes, I am witnessing what has happened to you. And yes, it is absolutely incomprehensible and unbelievable and right now even unforgivable and there is no explanation for it on God’s Green Earth. Yes, sister- I feel you. Yes, yes, yes.
She will go on to tell you that her children are all so brave and you will be doing okay until she tells you with a proud smile and watery eyes that her son called her yesterday and said “Happy Father’s day, mama!” at which point you will come close to losing it. But then you will consider how many times this woman has had to ignore her own pain in order to console others, and you will tell yourself with gusto that if anybody’s gonna lose it during this sacred session, it’s gonna be her. So you will tell her that she is a bad ass, because that will be the most profound sentence you can muster at the time…
You will get into the car and sit for a few minutes and marvel about how God can use any idiot anywhere. About how whether we’re with our kids or without our kids or in an office or traffic or a makeup chair we are always RIGHT IN FRONT of somebody who needs love. And how we don’t have to be dramatic about it. Because while it’s a wonderful thing to do – we don’t have to go to a refugee camp to serve others. The whole damn world is a refugee camp. We are misplaced, certainly. Every person I’ve ever met is much too precious for this precarious place.By
This is glorious. This is how we long to be listened to and the statis comfort in which we need to be held.
This is also how I need to learn to listen. So still, so quiet, so soft.(via beenthinking)